Mental Illness and Work: Capability, Dignity, Small Steps

Three hundred people showed up to a job fair this month for seasonal work at Connecticut's only zoo. Twenty people were hired, and one of them is my son Ben.  Why is this such a big deal? Because Ben hasn't been hired for a job in over eight years, since before his first hospitalization for schizophrenia. I am so overwhelmed with surprise and pride at this news that I realize I hadn't even dared to dream that this could happen yet for Ben.  In recent years, he'd begun to succeed in college part-time (the fact that he is starting to know what he can realistically handle is a huge step in itself.)

So much of Ben's growth in recovery has happened in these small steps that this huge leap into the work world scares me a little - yet I know (and keep reminding myself) that this is Ben's journey.  My questions - will this be too much stress for him? will he be able to wake himself up every morning when he has to get to work by 8:30? will his schoolwork suffer? - are ones I must keep to myself, and trust my son and his team of caseworkers to handle the answers without me.

But - over-riding all this is the wonderful pride I see in my son's eyes.  The value of having an actual job, of feeling useful, of being wanted for what you can offer: yes, indeed, priceless.  Ben, who while in the throes of the onset of his symptoms wrote that work was a "government plot designed to enslave us," has now changed his mind.  This week he wrote this:

If I were to give one piece of advice to the reader of this 'message', I would say that in order to get to where you want to be in life, what you have to do is walk the path.  Now, I understand that this probably sounds easier said than done, and - I won’t lie- it is. I now have goals for my life, and I must be willing to actually perform the steps that the goals require. One way to make this easier is to learn from one’s past, and embrace the lessons which will make walking the path easier. - Ben, 2011

A huge question, though, is one that no one on his team seems to be able to answer correctly - what, exactly, will be the effect of this minimum-wage job on Ben's benefits?

Four Rooms, Upstairs: A Psychotherapist's Journey Into and Beyond Her Mother's Mental Illness

Four Rooms, Upstairs: A Psychotherapist's Journey Into and Beyond Her Mother's Mental Illness by Linda  Appleman Shapiro

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Linda Appleman Shapiro writes honestly and beautifully about her experience as the daughter of a mother with mental illness, coping with  the confusion of the mood swings, her struggle to understand, and the stress and shame of keeping it all a secret. We meet her family members - Linda, her mother and father, and her brother - and soon the dynamic in her Brooklyn home becomes clear - as does the love that prevails.

His Bright Light: review of Danielle Steel's book

His Bright Light: The Story of Nick Traina by Danielle Steel

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


This is my favorite Danielle Steel book. Yes, it is partly because I share her experience of parenting a child with mental illness (though Nick had childhood-onset bipolar disorder and my Ben has schizophrenia which began to appear gradually in his mid-teens) - but, this common thread aside, I couldn't help but applaud Steel's candor and courage in sharing her experiences with the world.

Her Nick is vibrant, charming, brilliant - and troubled. Steel struggles to understand, especially in the light of all the "experts" who tell her that the illness she suspects simply doesn't exist.

Henry's Demons, review

Henry's Demons: Living with Schizophrenia, A Father and Son's Story by Patrick Cockburn

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Henry's Demons is an insightful look into both the family experience when schizophrenia strikes a loved one, and into the U.K. System of care.  As a parent in the United states, I couldn't help but compare Henry's experience (e.g. months at a time in the hospital) to my son Ben's story here in the United States, where it seems that every day the hospital must justify the stay to the insurance companies.  I must admit, I was a bit jealous at first; yet, I don't see that Henry benefited much from his extended stays, so maybe not. Hmmm.

Ticket to Work: The Road to Self-Sufficiency, fingers crossed.

Ben has a chance at a job. A real job. Minimum wage, yes, but for him to make it to a second interview, and then to a possible job offer for the summer...well, the tears I feel remind me that I hadn't really even dared to dream this for him.  Ben hasn't had a job in eight years, since he was twenty years old.

He is so excited - it's the validation, the possibility he may be able to earn money, be useful, have something to say about his life other than "I live with roommates and do volunteer work" and - lately - "I go to school part-time", a miracle in itself .  He is also facing, suddenly, questions like:

• What will come up in a background check? Will the employer know about my hospitalizations and diagnosis?
• Will I lose my SSDI? SSI? State help? Medicare? Medicaid?
• What is a "Ticket to Work", and do I have one?
• Will I lose respect and the chance at this job if I reveal my diagnosis?

Practically, I was able to find answers by calling Ticket to Work, and by visiting the Social Security Work Website
The emotional questions are the ones that are more difficult to face

Author Reflections: "Ben Behind His Voices" launch date set

It's real! The official publication date for Ben Behind His Voices is September 16, 2011.  When you search on Amazon or Barnes & Noble, there is a listing.  As a first-time author, I have to admit that this is even more exciting than my first kiss. Yep. At least I think so - the first kiss was so unexpected (another story for another time), while this listing is the culmination of  years of writing, rewriting, query letters, bouncing back, trying again, and finding and reconfirming my own faith in the book's value to others.

Yet this is nothing - nothing - compared to the challenges Ben himself has faced in the same period of time.